How to Pick Your Groomsmen

As a Groom, usually the biggest wedding planning decision you have to make is who will be your groomsmen. So don’t screw it up!

Without a doubt, the two most important people at your wedding is you and your partner. But a very close second are your buddies. Brothers from other mothers, brothers from the same mother, and you know, guys. We don’t always know how we collected our friends, or why they’re still sticking around, but we’re sure as hell glad they did, because they’re just as important as anyone else in our life. But when it comes to wedding planning, how do you pick who is going to be your groomsmen?

While you might think you can just grab your friends, assign them a role, and call it a day as if it were paintball. In reality, to pick your groomsmen is a bit more challenging, and feelings have to be handled, in order to avoid any heartache.

But have no fear we have a few key tips that will help you choose your best groomsmen and make sure your wedding party is award-winning.

It All Begins with Family

Bringing in your brother (or sister) is a lovely way to pick the perfect groomsmen squad. If you’re tight, then this is a no-brainer anyway, but if not, this could be the spark that brings you closer together. There’s absolutely no rule that your brother has to be the best man, but you should really consider including him in your wedding party as a groomsman if it feels right to do so. Also, if you’re in need of brownie points, maybe consider your future brother-in-law as a groomsman. The in-laws will love it and as long as you don’t feel like you’re being spied on, it can be a lovely way to better the relationship between you both.

Can You Count on Them

How is David in a crisis? Does he crumble under pressure? Does he lead from the front? Could he organize the decoration of a getaway car? These are factors that we have to consider when sitting down to pick our groomsmen. You may not need them to participate much during the planning of your wedding, but there will be moments when you’ll need to know they'll be accountable. If David always arrives late to every dinner date with his shoes untied and not smelling great, he probably shouldn’t be your first pick in the draft. Instead, lean towards the friends who always reply to messages and who are very rarely late, these guys will probably be less likely to lose your wedding bands on the way to the ceremony.

Budgets…

Let’s not beat the proverbial bush, having groomsmen can be expensive. Hell, weddings can be pretty costly in general. But when it comes to the special men in matching wedding suits, there are a lot of things to consider, money-wise. The aforementioned suits, shoes, accessories, bachelor party, accommodation, travel, gifts and everything else in-between all have to be added up. Now, we’re not trying to be Debbie Downer’s here, it’s just important that you consider everyone’s financial circumstances, unless you’re bankrolling the whole thing!

If you know one of your buddies is struggling financially or has a lot of mouths to feed at home, then make sure to let him know that it’s ok if he doesn’t join you on your bachelor party in Mexico for example, but you still want him/her by your side at the ceremony. There may be a momentary ego bruise, but in the long run they’ll appreciate you not simply ruling them out of certain activities.

Buying custom wedding suits for your groomsmen can also be costly, but make sure to relay to your chosen few that it is an investment piece. Something they can wear multiple times to special occasions, so in fact a more cost-effective alternative to rental.

Can We All Just Get Along

When asked to pick your groomsmen, consider not only your choices, but those of your partner too. For example, if your fiancé has chosen 2 bridesmaids, and you want 6 groomsmen then that may be quite disproportionate. Besides the numbers, you need to think about whether they’ll all get along. Are they all friendly with each other? Is there any bitter breakups in there? Do you have a buddy who’ll make it his life’s mission to have a romantic liaison with any of the bridesmaids? Putting a cohesive group together is massively important when planning a wedding, as it will help you to relax on your big day, leaving you free to worry about something else!

You were asked to pick your groomsmen, and now you have successfully drafted in your top guys and gals. It’s time to find them a custom wedding suit that they’ll actually love! Have a browse of our amazing selection of styles, pick a colour and then start putting your looks together. Message us if you have any questions.